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Even if every bad or negative thing that happens in your life may not be\u00a0your fault, will anything bad ever come out of asking, “What could I have done differently in this situation?”<\/em> or “Now that this has happened, what is my responsibility in it, how will I respond, and how will I move forward to change?”<\/em><\/p>\n A contract<\/strong> states that, “I will do this, if you do that.” A\u00a0covenant<\/strong> states that “I will do this, no matter what you do.” Think about the difference. Our natural tendency is to go through life making contracts with people and circumstances, most of them unwritten and unspoken, but just as real. Think about all the times you’ve made decisions about relationships, health, and finances based on the fact that someone didn’t keep up their end of the agreement or because of your own failed expectations.<\/p>\n Designing a life around personal covenants<\/em> opens us to healthy change because you’re no longer dependent on the actions of others or positive circumstances in order to make good choices, set goals, and accomplish the things that determine your outcome. I don’t\u00a0have to eat that\u00a0food because someone else ordered it, I don’t have to react\u00a0in anger because someone else is yelling, I don’t have to live life with a sense of entitlement because bad stuff happened to me.<\/p>\n Contracts can be weak and risky because they involve a unity and synchronicity that most people and external circumstances aren’t going to provide.\u00a0A personal covenant says that I am determined. I chose to stay focused, stay the course, and move toward what I want, no matter the negative influences, no matter what anyone else does.<\/p>\n Most people would admit that they can’t control what others do and can’t control many of the things that happen around them. Yet, there still seems to be an element of surprise when bad stuff happens so it’s necessary to have a plan on how you respond to the negative. Have you ever known someone who believes a disproportionate amount of hardship consistently happens in their lives? That their car breaks down more often, travel plans fall through, they don’t get the raise they wanted, people aren’t nice to them, or everyone but them seems to live a trouble-free life. Being in friendships or relationships with perpetual victims is extremely draining. It becomes necessary for those with a healthy perspective, to create personal boundaries so that they aren’t subject to the weighty emotions of the victim.<\/p>\n Be the sole proprietor of the bad that happens in your life. It gives you the best opportunity to learn, change and grow.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n You know the person, the one that is constantly complaining about their problems or their ailments. They seem to be in never-ending turmoil about how other people have wronged them. They seem to lack discretion when it comes to talking about other people. They often see others in a negative light and have no problem talking about it. The perpetual victim appears to be clueless as to how much time they spend talking about themselves, their problems, and the laundry list of wrongs that have been done to them. The victim seems almost entirely unable to concern themselves with how OTHERS are doing. They may ask you how you’re doing and by the time you take a breath to respond, they’re right back to talking about themselves.<\/p>\n The last time I heard that expression was probably on the playground when I accused one of my classmates of being a dumb jerk. Instead of owning the title, they deflected and said, “It takes one to know one!” None of us is immune from thinking, feeling, or acting the part of a victim to life’s circumstances at least some of the time. So, how can we take personal inventory to avoid falling into these patterns?<\/p>\n You might be stuck in a victim mindset if:<\/strong><\/p>\n More important than spotting a victim, is having a personal ability to see our own victimhood and alter course when necessary so that we bring life, encouragement, and absolute joy to others the majority of the time.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section][et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ _builder_version=”4.9.1″ _module_preset=”default” background_color=”#000000″ custom_padding=”0px||0px||false|false”][et_pb_row _builder_version=”4.9.1″ _module_preset=”default”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”4.9.1″ _module_preset=”default”][et_pb_post_slider include_categories=”11″ orderby=”rand” show_meta=”off” _builder_version=”4.9.1″ _module_preset=”default”][\/et_pb_post_slider][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section][et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ _builder_version=”4.4.7″ background_color=”rgba(10,10,10,0.42)” background_image=”https:\/\/fitguitargirl.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/File_005-4-scaled.jpeg” background_blend=”darken”][et_pb_row _builder_version=”4.4.7″ background_color=”rgba(10,10,10,0.9)” width=”100%” max_width=”100%” custom_padding=”20px||20px||false|false”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”4.4.7″][et_pb_blurb title=”Dawna Stafford Music” image=”https:\/\/fitguitargirl.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/IMG_0627-scaled.jpg” _builder_version=”4.4.7″ background_layout=”dark”]<\/p>\n<\/h3>\n
Contracts vs Covenants<\/strong><\/h3>\n
Make Personal Covenants<\/strong><\/h3>\n
Healthy People Create Personal Boundaries With Perpetual Victims<\/strong><\/h3>\n
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How To Determine If YOU Have A Victim Mindset<\/strong><\/h3>\n
It Takes One To Know One\u00a0<\/strong><\/h3>\n
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<\/a>Even if every bad or negative thing that happens in your life may not be your fault, will anything bad ever come out of asking, \"What could I have done differently in this situation?\" or \"Now that this has happened, what is my responsibility in it, how will I respond, and how will I move forward to change?\"<\/strong>\n